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A field left fallow

For a year, I took a hiatus from writing here on this space.  It was something that I needed to do for the sake of learning about what God had been prompting me to do with my life.  It has been both the most interesting and most difficult year of my life with regards to the development of my character and direction for my life.

I have both missed terribly and at times not even noticed that I was in fact not writing.  The dichotomy of being a creative being and someone who has been working hard at being consistent at not-so creative things is a weird one.  I know that I needed extra space mentally, emotionally, and most importantly spiritually this past year.  My creative life has been used, but my writing has been like a farmer’s field lying fallow for a season.

The concept of a field being fallow is one where the ground is tilled and ploughed but not seeded.  Some equate that concept to being stagnant or wasteful, but after a little time learning how to tend our garden (and now the youth group that I work with at our church), I recognise the importance of letting the soil rest before planting again.  The ground has to be ready to receive the seed, and it must be nurtured enough to be able to support the growth that may come.  Otherwise, it’s a useless and fruitless endeavour.  I recognise now, how important that is.

After my mother’s passing four years ago, I saw with regret all of the work that she wanted to still have done.  It was daunting and overwhelming.  There’s never enough time or enough people to accomplish the work.  There are always ones who need love and care, and there is always service to God in which to be immersed.  I still wince when I think of all the things that she could have accomplished had her time here been longer.  If I am to make the most of my time and efforts, I need to take care of myself like the Apostle Paul said to do…

“More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ, and may be found in Him.” — Philippians 3:8-9

So I, in this past year, have had much that I could have written.  Some, I know that I will regret never scribbling down.  Some, I know that I am better off for not having spent the time.  However, I do know that for where I am now, there is a smouldering that is not an all-consuming fire to be creative and write.  The embers are still there, waiting to catch flame, but I need His lordship ever more to use it for His glory and purposes.  There are too many other things and people that need me as both worker and soil to be ready to grow God’s fruit and not sow my own thoughts and feelings.

So, today on what would be my mother’s 73rd birthday, I recognise that it’s time to start planting seed again.  My prayers are that if He deems me worthy, that good stuff will grow in the future.  Perhaps I will have another 30 or so years to be able to invest in fruit that doesn’t rot or spoil.


Sheltering: an allegory

*(This is an allegory, which is an extended metaphor that represents concepts and ideas.  Read into it whatever you will.)*

When we are young, we must be protected from the world in which we live.  There are too many things that can harm a defenseless child.  As we get older, our parents and those around us that love us try to give us tools and skills to be able to survive.  Some of those are actual fundamental skills:  walking, talking, and the like.  Others are subjective skills:  morals, values, judgment, etc.  Still others are functional skills:  social interaction, interpretation of actions, dealing with different points of view, critical thinking, etc.  Because, as we all know, at some point this child is going to be old enough that they will have to be able to function in the world on their own.

How we get those children to that point is up for debate.  But before they are ready, we give them some form of shelter to varying degrees as they grow up.

The ideas to get them ready are varied and diverse.  The methods come from all over the place.  Some believe in uniformity for learning, and others emphasize individuality.  All of them have some aspects of truth and/or success.  Most people have significant opinions about how it gets done.  Some are so strong that arguments ensue when their beliefs are questioned.  I believe these strong beliefs mean two things.  One, that these people truly care about the children in these systems.  Two, if one’s ideas are “wrong”, then they have been essentially not doing right by their children.

At some point, however, the sheltering needs to be pulled away.   Mentally, emotionally, ideologically, spiritually, and of course physically we shelter our children until such time as the skills to survive should be in place.  Otherwise, the children become ill-prepared to take on the struggles and hardships that the world inflicts upon us.  As someone who works with children in various situations, I recognise when children aren’t well-prepared and are lacking skills or coping mechanisms to have success.

I was one of those kids who was well-prepared for many things, but I was sheltered in various ways, especially in dealing with the ramifications of my own actions.  Also, the consequences of my life choices were headed off in many respects far past the time when they should have counted against me.  With authority, I recognise when someone is given a pass on some issue in their lives.  When children are young, if they don’t learn that lesson early, the lesson takes on a larger and larger consequence the older they get.

Parents love their children, so they often want to protect them from things that scare them about this world.  That’s why so many home school their children.  I applaud anyone taking that much of an interest in their kids’ education.  It offers a parent the ability to teach the children a value structure that matches their core beliefs as a family.  It’s a great crucible for some parents/teachers to be able to give  their children an education and give them some of the other skills that we all desperately need in life while being to reasonably keep some issues that kids deal with far too quickly in today’s society.  It’s a great shelter to have for children, one that if used correctly provides an invaluable experience for children to become who they are supposed to be.

A question:  when should that shelter be pulled back so that children have to deal with a world that doesn’t necessarily treat people like homeschooling?

Different expectations, different voices, different influences.  Different experiences.  As someone who works with a youth group, I want each of my kids to be able to withstand, to quote Shakespeare, “the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” that is found far too often in the real world.  I want their faiths to be unshakeable, and sometimes (actually every time) to achieve that, we need to be shaken and challenged.  Shakespeare says that there are two ways of dealing with hardship:  accepting difficulty and toughing it out, or attempting to overcome the hardship, and solve the issue which makes life easier.  I want for them to be able to say what they know to be true because they know it.  I want them to know that they can figure things out on their own, without help.  I want for them to overcome obstacles and to be able to meet challenges head-on.

However, we as authority figures in our kids’ lives often want to keep them from suffering anything that can be avoided.  We want to protect them from things that we know hurt them.

Parent birds throw their kids out of the nest at some point, and if they don’t fly, they crash and die.  That doesn’t sound like a great idea to me, but keeping the bird in the nest for the next 15 years doesn’t make sense either.  People that don’t home school often see their children deal with extreme adult issues really early in their lives.  It’s more like crashing and burning.  If I had children of my own, I would be seriously torn about what I would want to do.  Because going through life teaches us things that learning from words never can.  Living is a great classroom.  Experiences are great lessons, if guided by someone who cares to get the very best from their children.


*(I don’t believe the following about everyone, it’s an observation.)*

Our churches, bible studies, youth groups, and whatnot often do the same thing.  We shelter people from living life, without preparing people to deal with real consequences of faith, or the lack thereof.  We can be so focused on learning that we never apply what we’re learning.  Then we end up with people who aren’t prepared when the world challenges us with “whys and hows”.  Just because this is how we do it, isn’t an informed answer.  Or, we can be so involved in protecting ourselves from ideology and philosophy from outside our faith that we couldn’t have an intelligent discussion about what makes Christ different and significant to someone else.  It creates a “we’re right and you’re wrong” adversarial mentality, and encourages people to put labels upon outside influences without actually being able to engage them as people.  Funny still, is that we can become so insulated that we really don’t ever have deep contact with someone outside of our own faith or point of view.  We aren’t ever challenged by the world, nor do we ever challenge with world with the truth that we have.

 If we keep people from being challenged with things, and basically say to them that they don’t have to deal with difficulty or struggling, then we do them a grave disservice.  Sometimes, we have to have hard questions, and struggle to find the answers.  Like in education, if we constantly lower the bar and don’t challenge them to learn, they can end up impotent and ill-prepared to survive in the world.  Like in dealing with faith, to not prepare people to be able to meet the world knowing what we believe but also why and how it’s relevant… we become impotent and ill-prepared to serve the world.


The best form of shelter is the ability to withstand or adapt to anything that the world throws at you,
not be isolated from anything that the world throws at you.

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